How to get my attention
- Show me you've read my ad. This will help me to know that if I write you back, I'm not wasting my time on someone who's going to say, four emails down the line, "Oh, whoops, I'm not into that whacky midget threesome you mentioned, after all. Sorry."
- Show your interest in the person who posted the ad, not just any generic chick who's willing to respond to your email. No woman wants to be wanted just for her pussy.
- Be funny. Funny is always good. Tell a relevant joke, or just take a joking tone. If you can't be funny, or if your sense of humor is questionable, this item is optional.
- Be bright. Okay, not all women are as into smarts as I am, but if you're smart, show it off, because it can't hurt. Don't be snobby about it, but being smart is an asset, and it's worth highlighting.
- Make references to things I said in my ad. This is a no-brainer. It should also make your life easier, since it gives you a bit of a template in responding to an ad. I said I like skiing? Talk about how you learned to ski in college, but it turns out you hated it because you ran into a tree. You don't have to like all the same things, but show that you can relate to me regardless.
- Tell me about yourself. Even though a lot of what a woman writes in her ad will be about herself, typically, she also wants to know about you. How else will she gauge if you're the type of person she'll find interesting?
- Ask me questions to engage me and give me something to start my email to you. This one is purely selfish, but I'll let you in on a secret: If I get 100 responses to my CL post, and 10 of them are interesting enough for me to want to write back, the first ones to hear from me will be the ones who make it easy by asking me questions and drawing me out.
- Fit at least half of the categories I put in my ad. I put them there for a reason, not just because I like making shopping lists. Yes, some of them will be flexible, but if I say I'm looking for a regular thing with a non-smoker who likes to go bowling and get head in the backseat of his car before driving out to the beach for a swim, and you're looking for a one-off with someone who will go to the cigar bar with you before hitting it in the back alley, guess what?
