Focus your email
I respond to all the w4m posts in my citys casual encounters section and have been for months but I've only heard back from one person. And that was a GUY who was hoping I'd be into him!!! What am I doing wrong?
Without seeing your emails, I can't pick them apart for all the things I'd change, but I bet there's a lot. If you're responding to loads of ads, you're probably sending a pretty generic response to all of them, and that's not very exciting. Furthermore, if you're responding to every last w4m ad in CE, some of the people you're responding to are a) men (as you've discovered), b) bots, collecting email addresses for future spam and c) women who are looking for something very specific, and you're not it.
I've been posting the occasional ad for several months, and there's one guy who reliably responds to every single post I make, regardless of what I say I'm looking for. If I want a hot weekend tryst, he's my man. If I want something regular for the next few months, he's my man again! The problem is, he sends the same email every time, and every time, that email tells me that he's looking for something that doesn't match well with what I want.
Rather than respond to every w4m ad you see with a generic email, I suggest that you take a bit of time to skim the ads before responding. The bot ads should literally leap out at you in most cases. Many times, the fake ads by men will, too, though not always. Look for ads that sound like a real woman. Practice will help on this front.
Once you've found an ad by what sounds like a real woman, make a note of what she wants. Is she an older domme looking for younger boys to humiliate? If your thing is younger women who like to have their ass slapped, you're going to look ridiculous if you email her. If you're flexible in your desires, say so. Or, better yet, do a bit of tailoring for each ad you respond to.
It's okay to have some generic text in your email, a bit about you that you can always cut and paste, but it's worth spending a couple of minutes making personalized additions to show that you're responding to a specific ad and to help her know that you're really a good fit, beyond just having a dick.
