ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

One of my clever readers wrote in with a few questions, including this one:

Best experience you've had meeting someone through CL, worst?

It's actually kind of hard to pick out one best (or one worst, for that matter) experience, because different encounters with different guys have different outstanding qualities. In fact, this might be best as a series, perhaps with updates when someone else good (or bad) comes along to talk about.

My most recent great experience was in meeting up with a fellow who responded to an ad I posted at the beginning of the month. I recognized his email address as one I'd corresponded with about six months ago, and I mentioned as much in my response to him. Our earlier email exchange had petered out when we didn't manage to make plans within a week of starting our contact, and I hadn't felt strongly enough about him to follow it up that time.

In his email to my post this month, he came across as confident and assured, smart and looking for the same sort of thing I am. Between that and the fact that I'd decided in the past that I'd be up for meeting him (and reviewing our prior conversation, I could see why), I decided it would be worth trying again.

He indicated that he'd like to make plans sooner rather than later to meet up, rather than drag out the email contact, which suited me fine, in this case. Sometimes, I dislike someone who rushes things, because it feels premature to me, but because we'd laid some groundwork last year, this felt reasonable to me. So, we made plans and then didn't have any more email conversation, which was also a bit unusual; usually people like to do a bit of "getting to know you" via email first. The result was I didn't know all that much about him before meeting up over coffee downtown.

I got to the coffee shop early (I like to be there early, so I can sit and let him do the approaching. Lazy? You bet! But believe it or not, I'm a bit shy.) He found me without trouble (one of the things I hear on about 50% of my meet-ups is, "You look just like your pictures!") and we chatted. It turns out, that he's into a few things that are close to my heart, including travel, which is a great conversation topic. I love it when I can avoid the boring, rote questions like, "So, what do you do?"

About halfway into our conversation, I decided that I totally wanted to take him to bed. That's always a good thing in a meet-up! He was attractive, sexy, friendly and personable. The conversation flowed with the occasional innuendo and increasing flirtation. Apparently, he decided the same, and offered to show me the view from his apartment. Actually, he told me it was the best view of the city I've ever had, and what would I like to wager on it? This was a humorous and sexy way to a) get me to his apartment and b) imply I'd owe him something once there. Since I'd already decided I was hot for him, I didn't need the bet, but I enjoyed the banter.

It turns out, it was the best view of the city that I've ever had (and probably ever will have). The view, of course, was just a bonus.