Cluechick's dirty little secret
I have a shameful little secret, but you all can't tell anyone, okay?
Sometimes, I respond to a lousy email that a guy writes to my ad. And I'm a little embarrassed to say that it's not always just snarky.
Okay, that's not entirely true. On occasion, I get a dumb response that, while dumb, is also somehow humorous. And if I'm bored, I may give in to the temptation to write back some smartassy comment about how brilliant and scintillating his email was. This, naturally, typically leads to a bit of email flying back and forth. It usually ends badly, with me telling him why he's not going to get any from me (he's dumb, lacks a sense of humor, is saying rude or disgusting things, etc. You pick.) Sometimes, I really drag it out. Never let it be said I can't be bitchy when I'm inspired and bored.
However, there's the every-once-in-a-while where my snarky opening gambit discovers someone who's actually intelligent, engaging and entertaining on the other end. Go figure. Usually, when I ask why he opened with such a dud, he says something about it just having been a whim to respond. I can understand that.
So, there have been a couple of times when a guy's crappy response got in the door and all the way up to a meeting. And, in fact, in one instance, all the way to my bed.
Since I spend so much time trying to get guys to write good, complete responses, why am I telling you this? Because the truth is, luck of the draw definitely plays into things on CL. That sometimes works out well for you, and sometimes poorly. As always, don't take it personally.
