ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

A_Guy: hey kinky woman
thecluechick: hi
A_Guy: sorry about that pic
[He had sent me a dick shot after I asked him not to.]
thecluechick: thanks
A_Guy: I misunderstood
thecluechick: ok
A_Guy: am I gonna get spanked?
A_Guy: I bought a butt plug
thecluechick: we're not a good match
A_Guy: how come
A_Guy: are you looking for someone to dominate you?
A_Guy: we can still be friends
A_Guy: hello?
A_Guy: I need some pussy tonight

Now, let me break this down for you. First, as all twelve of my loyal readers know, I hate it when a guy sends me a dick pic after I've declined the offer. So, that, combined with the fact that this fellow was not all that interesting, was enough for me to send him an email saying, "Please, don't contact me again."

Most people will not be so explicit. In online communications, we often have to rely on a lack of response to tell us that the person is no longer interested, and that's not always true -- sometimes a lack of response is just an indication that the person is busy, and someone can be forgiven for trying a couple of times with a nonresponder. When it's a clear no, however, take the hit and move on.

Then, of course, he kind of flounders around trying to figure out what I want. Maybe I'll spank him? I could use a new toy on him? Or perhaps I want him to use it on me? What about being friends?

Most of us have probably done this flailing about thing when there's someone we're really into and he or she isn't into us, but... try not to do it. It just makes you look sad and desperate. I have a couple of guys who have been persistent in trying to make plans with me, but they've managed to do it without being quite so sad in the approach. Persistence paired with a solid statement of who you are and what you're after is far, far more likely to appeal.

In the end, I felt really sorry for this guy. And now you can, too.