ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

Seriously, guys, stop lying

I swear, I thought this one was really clear. I obviously need to get the word out more effectively. But, listen. Lying in your initial emails with a woman is shooting yourself in the foot. Why?

Because the woman will find out.

Oh, sure, there are lies that, especially in a casual encounter, may well never come out. You can tell me you have a house in the Bahamas and I'll never know the difference. On the other hand, why the heck bother? The lies that are worth bothering with are the ones that will come out sooner or later, and probably sooner.

If you tell me you're hot, great, except, if you're not, and your goal is to meet face-to-face someday, then sooner or later the game will be up. Seriously. I know you guys aren't dumb. Okay, most of you aren't dumb. Maybe a little clueless sometimes, but, hey, that's why I love you! But, truly, I'm confounded on this one.

If a guy tells me he's hot, I'm going to expect him to be hot. And then if he's... well, if he's well below average, he's going to stack up even more poorly in comparison to the expectation he sets for himself in my eyes. Is there some hope here that I'll take him on his word and when I meet him, I'll reset my definition of hot?

For crying out loud, what a waste. Later today: letter to not-hot guy.