ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

Okay, I'm going to try not to be too snarky, here, because this guy sent me an email but my response to him bounced, so instead, he gets featured here!

I am a 29 year old cute male and have received responses from girls when I post on women seeking men, but never on casual encounters. I work alot and sometimes do not get all my needs met. Am I doing something wrong on CE, are most of the posts fake, are women who post swamped with emails, or is there another site that might be more accomodating to my needs??

First off, you're right, you're very cute, and that's working in your favor. And you obviously are able to string together a coherent thought, so that's good, too. But...

I know there's a lot of cultural support for the idea that men have "needs" that women are supposed to meet. Let's toss that idea out the window, okay? If you're approaching your CE posts from the point of view of what you need from a woman, you're starting in a bad place. I, personally, never respond to posts that are focused around what the guy "needs". In fact, you'll notice I've made some snide remarks in past posts about this, and I certainly will again. You don't need anything from me, or from any other woman, and we don't need to meet those needs or help you out or anything like that.

Lots of posts on CE are fake. All women who post are swamped with emails, and if there is another site that's more accommodating to your needs, I haven't discovered it, yet, though if you're willing to pay for it, most cities provide a vast array of prostitutes who won't care if you think of them as meeting your needs.

Even in a casual encounter, most women don't want to feel like a piece of meat. When you set it up that way, it's not appealing, and it really, really comes through in how you (men, generally) communicate. Think of casual sex as something you're going to be doing with another person. An actual person who has wants and needs of her own. And then think about how to be appealing to a new person. As long as a woman in your eyes is simply a receptacle to discharge your orgasmic urges, you're going to have a hard time capturing their attention.