Pay attention, damnit!
The thing about any flirtation techniques I tell you about is that they only work if they're working. That is, flirtation is a game, and it only moves if both people are playing. So when you're flirting, it's essential that you be paying attention to her cues and back off if she's not playing the same game you are.
There's no guarantee, and there's nothing as effective as a bucket of cold water as someone who moves the flirtation too fast or clumsily. By paying attention, if she hits the brakes, you can, rather than plowing into her bumper, slow down, too, and figure out where you're going.
Sometimes, I'll be flirting with a guy online, and I'll start to get bored with where things are -- this happened recently with a fellow with whom I started a very explicit email exchange. I offered a scenario and asked what he'd do, and he responded with the implication that if I were to show up at his office in that attire, he'd want a blow job. Okay, cool. So I offered a few more lines of what might happen and then passed the ball back to him... and he commented that he wanted to hear more about the blowjob I'd be giving him. Now, I was writing about something I love doing, so that's all well and good, but, hello, dull. That's like actually giving a guy head and encouraging him to put his hands on my breasts, only to find a moment later that he has returned to wanking himself while I suck him off. Yawn. So I tried to steer things in a more interesting direction and, again, that fell flat.
He was so focused on his path that he wasn't paying attention to mine, and not only that, but he wasn't paying attention to when I stopped playing along. His loss. For the rest of you... it's those subtle cues, like, "This isn't working for me," or a yawn that give it away. Pay attention!
