ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

As the saying goes: I'm kinky; you're perverted.

I'm always fascinated by the variety in perceptions from one person to the next. This is true in all settings; it just happens to spring into relief online, where people are more likely to spell out what it is they want, what they think, how things look to them. You can't tell of the woman you're considering propositioning in the grocery store checkout line is into wearing stockings or not, if the guy at the bank is going to go for being tied up, or what have you. And, obviously, depending on who you spend time with, any given activity may or may not jump out as weird to you.

For example, in one of my ads, I said something about looking for "kinky fun". One poor fellow responded that he was into "BJ/HJ/FJ ... kinky, huh?" I, of course, thought that this must be a different set of activities than I thought, because, surely no one is still thinking that blowjobs are kinky? So, I responded, looking for clarification. Upon clarification that, yes, indeed, he did mean blowjob/handjob/footjob. Poor guy.

Just about any wacky thing you can imagine, you can find online. In fact, lots of wacky things I can't imagine are to be found online. But even without dredging the depths for the strangest or most unusual sexual preference, there's lots of room for confusion. Is bondage kinky? It's certainly lost its cache if major hotels are providing cuffs as an option on the room service menu.

Kinky is obviously in the eye of the beholder. If you're looking for something specific, spell it out. And if you want some fun, leave it open-ended, because you're bound to get some surprising responses.