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What makes a good photo for online pickups?

This one seems obvious to me, but, like so many things that seem obvious, it turns out not to be. In fact, I've written about it before, but I just got a really awful picture, so I'm inspired again.

First, your photo should be recent, and it should reflect, more or less, how you currently look. To the guy who sends me a picture of himself and says, "But I've lost 100 pounds since then!" -- you might as well not send me a picture, because 100 pounds makes a big difference, so I still have no idea what you look like, but if I'm someone who doesn't like fat guys, I now think you're one.

Second, your photo should show you clearly. I got a picture last week that was so dark that the guy looked like a shadowy, hunchbacked monster. He might have had a beard, or long hair, or been black, but I couldn't tell. Another popular one is the picture from afar. Again, this doesn't help me.

Third, your photo should not focus on your dick. I know that's where you're going to want me to lavish my attentions once we meet, but just pretend for a moment, if you would, that I care about more than that.

I like a photo that shows a man's face clearly, and gives me a sense of his build, though it doesn't have to be a full body picture. I happen to care more about how a person carries himself than what shape his body is, but that carriage is hard to capture in pictures. I've occasionally received an action shot -- him playing a sport or walking or dancing or what have you -- and I tend to like those for that reason, though they often don't have a clear picture of his face, so if that's the case, two pictures isn't a bad idea.

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