ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

Today, I was killing some time on OkCupid when I got a message through the IM system: "Great pics! May I save one for some self entertainment?"

Interestingly, this is the first time I've gotten a request like this out of the blue. Guys I've hooked up with have asked for pics for this purpose (usually explicit photos, of which I have a few), and no doubt the occasional stranger has used my photos for inspiration without mentioning it to me, but having a stranger approach me with this request was new to me.

Now, normally, of course, I advice against this sort of thing, because, well, it's hard not to come off as skeevy when you do, but this fellow was polite about it, and I actually thought it was at least moderately classy (though also potentially skeevy) for him to ask rather than just do it (though I do assume that the photos I post online are likely to get used for any number of things that I don't want to know about.) This fellow was far away, though, and I had a few minutes to hear him wax poetic about how much he liked my pictures, and, really, who doesn't like to hear a nice flow of compliments in a completely unpressured context?

This sort of thing is not a good way to arrange a hook-up. I wouldn't at all consider meeting up with someone who approached me this way, but if you're just looking for a bit of online fun, there are worse ways than to be enthusiastically complimentary toward your target. And while, "Mind if I jerk off to your photos?" isn't a great way to start something you want to be face-to-face, the lesson of a well-managed compliment remains.