Casual sex: pros and cons of last-minute planning
One of the fun things about casual sex is the fluidity of the relationships involved. My favorite fuckbuddies are those with whom I can make plans at the last minute, or not, or make plans and not stress about when we'll next manage to make plans, just counting on the fact that when we're both interested and available, we'll find the time.
On the other hand, though, there are the occasional frustrations along these lines. For example, Mr. The View drops into town about once a month, and it's almost always when I'm already committed to other plans. One of my personal practices is that I never drop plans with a friend in favor of a booty call, no matter how frisky I'm feeling. Mr. The View is, unfortunately, rather a fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants kind of planner, and I tend to be busy, so we often miss each other.
Because I'm an optimist, I like to look on the bright side and figure that this simply heightens the anticipation for those times when we do manage to connect. And in the meantime, perhaps tonight's date will benefit from a little of my frustration.
