Cuddle up while you can, before summer makes it too sweaty for touching!
The other day, this query appeared in my inbox:
How cuddly should a guy be?
I have to tell you, I don't really know how to answer this kind of question, because the answer depends so much on the individual you're with. Really, the best way to find out how cuddly you should be is to ask your partner. Or act as cuddly as you like, and if she finds it excessive, she'll probably take some of her space back. Or if it's not enough, you'll find her touching you more.
Speaking for myself, I tend to be a little less on the cuddly side than many. I like to touch, but I don't like to be entwined or tangled for more than a few minutes. I like spooning, but I far prefer to be on the outside 99% of the time. I love friendly touch: stroking his arm or back or standing close enough that our shoulders touch. I also like to receive that kind of touch.
So, now you know what to do if you ever get me into bed. But, really, if you're sleeping with someone else (which I assume you are, since you're not sleeping with me), I suggest you ask her what she likes!
Comments
ew. ew ew. i hate sweaty snuggling. i'd rather chill the room down to 65 and snuggle up, chewing up buckets of foreign oil for hours, then to be sweat-welded after 3 minutes of hugging my partner.
ew.
Posted by: dbs | April 20, 2006 11:50 AM
But, really, if you're sleeping with someone else (which I assume you are, since you're not sleeping with me)
How do we know that? :)
You've told us that you don't tell the guys you hook up with off CL that you are cluechick, so isn't it possible some readers are sleeping with you - and that many of those who aren't, don't know if they aren't?
Posted by: Cos | April 21, 2006 11:41 PM
Cos: Good point! In fact, I can guarantee that some of my readers are, in fact, sleeping with me. I assumed that the one who asked me that question isn't one who is sleeping with me, because I didn't recognize the email address. But it's entirely possible that someone would use an anonymous address to email me as cluechick as opposed to when they email me as a potential fuckbuddy.
I stand corrected :)
Posted by: ClueChick | April 22, 2006 8:54 AM