Thinking outside the hookups box
Sometimes, when you're browsing personal ads, what you're looking for isn't an actual hookup. Lots of people post looking for netsex or phone sex or photo exchanges. These are all things you can get by paying for them, but there can be an extra charge in doing those things with "real" people rather than professionals. Obviously, the theory behind finding someone who's not a pro at it is that you can hope and imagine that the other person is enjoying it as much as you are, not just for the paycheck.
I'm no good at phone sex, because, believe it or not, I'm shy about talking about sex out loud. I did a lot of netsex when I was in college, but not so much recently. But I do have a bit of an exhibitionist streak, and a friend with a great camera, who took some really hot photos of me recently. (Never let it be said I'm modest.) So, every once in a while, some guy posts to CL about wanting to exchange pics, and if I'm in a flirty mood, I might take him up on it.
One fellow, in particular, posted in my city despite living in another city, thus making it clear that he would never expect to meet up. He wanted pictures of body parts, not necessarily faces, and I thought, hey, why not? So I sent him a photo, and almost immediately, I got an email back from him completely gushing over how great it was, and did I have another? Yes, of course I did, and we had a fun little exchange about my photos and his appreciation of them.
This was great fun. I love being on the receiving end of enthusiastic compliments, and he clearly loved being on the receiving end of my photos. It was a low-pressure, win-win situation. Sometimes, that's just the thing.
Comments
You can send me your photos anytime! :)
Posted by: G | April 5, 2006 3:05 PM
One fellow, in particular, posted in my city despite living in another city, thus making it clear that he would never expect to meet up
If he made it clear in his post that he didn't intend to meet, then he made it clear. But just through posting in a city he doesn't live in? If I posted in another city, it'd likely be a city I visit often, or a city I have plans to visit in the next year or so. It wouldn't be evidence that I don't plan to meet, unless I said so.
Posted by: Cos | April 19, 2006 4:36 PM