ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

I really enjoyed your post. You seem very upfront and honest, which, when combined, are a big plus! I'm 26, a recent grad student, brown hair, eyes, 5'9, avg build, witty, sarcastic, kissable, also honest and upfront. I'm terribly new to this, but I think we might make a good match since we seem to have similar interests. I'm totally single, no extramarital affairs here-that's kinda creepy.

You seem very comfortable with yourself, which is a huge turn on. Finding someone who is uninhibited is one of the reasons I was attracted to your ad. I think we are looking for very much the same thing- an ongoing, no drama, honest and safe place to have a lot of fun : ) I'm definately a little frustrated with "traditional" partners. I guess my tastes are a little more on the wild side. Can't believe I just used the term, "wild side". I do like to be a little kinky, but I'm not into any real pain, y'know, beyond just what's fun. I'm also pretty vocal, and its a big turn on to be with someone who is articulate in bed as well. I'm very openminded about a lot of things, and will try pretty much anything once. If you're interested, we can get into more detail about what we both really like, and hopefully we'll be on the same page for most of it.

As for my own history, I've always been safe. I've had a few longterm monogomous relationships, and everything else has been completely safe. I've also been tested recently, and hope you have been too. I'm trying to think of what else I can tell you about me... I have the thundercats logo on my desktop!

If you like what you've read so far, I'd really love to hear back from you. I have some pics too, if you'd like to trade. We could chat on the phone, and if all seems right, meet for some coffee or a drink? Let me know...

What's great about this response? First, he obviously read my ad. You all, even without having read my ad, can tell that he's responding to particular things I might have said, and you, most likely, could recreate some of what I posted, based on what he said in his response. He clearly took time to think about what he was saying and to consider if I, in particular, was someone he was interested in, and then took the time to convey that interest to me.

Unlike many men, who will leave it at, "You sound really cool!" this guy told me what about me seemed appealing to him, and the reasons that he, in turn, was a good fit for those things that I'd expressed.

Additionally, there's a lot of great personality in his response. He thinks extramarital affairs are creepy, and he's got a sense of humor about it. He describes himself using some standard details like height and hair color, but also something a little more offbeat, like saying he's kissable and witty. That's hot, both because, hey, kissable and witty are hot, and because the creativity that goes into stepping out of the standard descriptors is also hot.

He talks about the "wild side" and then pokes fun of himself for that turn of phrase. I love a prospect who doesn't take himself too seriously, and who has a sense of humor about it.

Finally, of course, he's not shy about talking about logistics like safer sex, which is a good sign that I'm dealing with someone who's up my alley in terms of up-front communication and discussion, not just about mutual fantasies, but about the details that make this kind of play safe and fun.

There are so many examples of bad responses, and sometimes coming up with examples of good ones can be tough, but this is one of my all-time favorites.