How many people are out there enjoying casual sex, anyway?
The other day I posted wondering what questions you all might have, or topics you'd like to see me post on. I had a few responses, all interesting. Today, I'll address b4f's question:
How much casual sex do you think is actually going on out there? Is it a select few folks like us who choose to spend their nights pawing and sniffing each other or is the world essentially one giant pick-up bar with a few prudish naysayers on the sidelines?
The truth is, I don't have any good idea about this, because I spend almost all of my time safely ensconced in the cozy and, yes, sexually free environs of my home and neighborhood. Here, even those people who aren't engaging in casual sex either have in the past, or take a rather laissez faire attitude toward it, which makes it seem normal to me. I understand that in vast swaths of the country, and even in other social circles in my very city, this isn't the case.
So, although I may perceive that there are lots of people running out and having as much casual fun as their hearts may desire, I think the truth is that we're probably a rather select few.
Looking at Craig's List for a bit of insight here, there are many hundreds of posts each from people in my city alone. And they're all looking for casual sex. Now, sure, there's a lot of repetition, but you also have to assume that not everyone is looking there. And then, of course, there's the bar scene.
So, I think there's a lot of casual sex happening. Probably most of it is happening in younger crowds; I'm 30, and by this time, most people are settled or settling down. And probably most of it is happening as a filler, rather than as a life-oriented practice. But not all of it! I know there are plenty of people of all ages who enjoy casual encounters and have no desire to change that. I just don't have any idea how many there are!
I do, though, think that we are the few... the proud... the, um... well, I don't know what our title is, but we're out there!
