ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

There are multitudinous formats in which to have casual sex.

There's the ever-popular one night stand. You meet, you fuck, you kiss goodbye. Maybe you know each other's names and maybe you don't. Maybe you even know the right names. Or maybe not. This can be hot, but it's always superficial.

There's the newly-popular friends with benefits,. This is a fluidly casual sexual arrangement in the context of a non-casual (or not necessarily casual) ongoing friendship or relationship. This is one of my favorite arrangements, because it allows for the development of a connection and trust that can bring the sexual connection into more interesting territory.

There's the whenever-we're-in-town fuckbuddy, where you don't hang out together, but when your schedules overlap, you hook up.

There's the nooner fuckbuddy, or the ego-boost fuckbuddy, or the... well, the list goes on, needless to say.

And there are plenty of other ways to have casual sex, whether the whole relationship is casual or just the sex. Some people can enjoy any of these sorts of sex, and other folks only like one style or another. But I always feel funny talking about casual sex as one monolithic concept, because the truth is, it comes in as many forms as the people who enjoy it.