Casual sex, gender, relational styles and expectations
I've had plenty of casual encounters, obviously, of various flavors. Some of them have been one night stands, while others have been occasional get-togethers over the course of several months. But none of them, until just now, have been with women.
Oh, sure, I've thought about it, but I've come to the conclusion that casual sex won't work well with the way I interact with women. Normally, if there's a woman I connect well with, I find her attractive, but I'm more interested in making the kind of connection that leads to more serious relationships, whether friendly or romantic.
I've talked (mostly to myself) about the difference between a casual relationship and casual sex. One, after all, can have casual sex within the context of a committed relationship, or a casual relationship that contains very committed sex.
Well, now is my big chance to see how this plays out for me in the context of my expectations about women and how I interact with them: a beautiful woman picked me up at a party last weekend, and though she says she doesn't want to be dating anyone seriously (that sounds familiar), she sure would like to get together for some hot sex with me every now and again. And I find myself hoping we can pull it off.
Stay tuned to see if I can prove myself wrong.
