More on anal sex: readers weigh in
Well, that'll show me to talk about the details of sex! I had several comments, both public and private, telling me that you can, in fact, have anal sex without using lube. I'll rephrase my advice to say that you cannot have anal sex with me without lube, and if you're trying it for the first time with anyone, I strongly suggest that you use lube, and lots of it.
But that all just goes to show that there's a wide variety of experience, and what I say is, after all, only one perspective.
I also had one person comment asking for more details: what does anal sex feel like for a woman? Well, guys, here's the great thing about anal sex: you can find out! Since we all are ass-enabled, you, too, can give this particular specialty a try. I understand, in fact, that it's even better for guys because of the prostate. Lucky bastards.
I probably won't tell you what it's like for me, though, because I suck at writing anything that smacks of porn, and certainly getting into the details of, "And then when he slides his finger in..." counts as smacking of porn, I get all flustered and feel like I sound cheesy and ridiculous and then I have to go out and pick up some guy to blow so I can block the traumatic experience out of my mind. So I'll just skip the trauma and go right for picking up a guy, okay?
Comments
I wonder if the previous commenter wanted to know about the kinky aspects of anal. I think of anal sex as being neutral. It's a sex act. It feels good. It's not inherently kinky or dirty or whatever. However, in talking to my friends I've noticed many people feel otherwise. Some people think anal sex is this huge forbidden thing, so it feels like they're getting away with something. Other people think it's a big kink dominantion/submission thing.
For me, it's a different way to get "whee! orgasms"
Posted by: NoirGirl | July 31, 2006 8:53 PM
Also, I forgot. I was listenign to Blowfish's podcast and some people produce enough natural mucus in their ass that they can engage in anal sex with little to no lube.
Posted by: NoirGirl | July 31, 2006 8:53 PM
Just to respond to Noirgirl, it's not the kinky aspects of it in particular, since I don't know how kinky ClueChick finds it. But whatever emotional vibe it creates for her, at least.
And though I'm interested in how a woman experiences, I've no interest in experiencing it myself. Big turnoff.
Posted by: Rob | July 31, 2006 10:27 PM
Rob: the vibe it creates for me varies a lot depending on the context of the hookup where I'm doing it. It's almost always more intense than vaginal sex, and so however I'm playing with the guy gets intensified by it. So, if I'm having a sweet, sexy hookup, I'm much more likely to be gooey and sweet with anal sex, whereas if I'm having a hot, nasty fuck, anal sex makes it more so.
It does seem like lots of people think it's extra kinky, but like NoirGirl, I don't have that, so I don't get any particular extra zing from it on that basis.
Posted by: ClueChick | August 1, 2006 4:42 PM