ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

Personally, I'm most likely to go up to a woman if I have some indication she is interested. Like most guys, I don't enjoy rejection. If I am in a bar I don't need as much prompting to start a conversation (good old alcohol as a lube I guess). In a public space, unless I get some eye contact with a returned slight smile or nod from her then I know flirting with a woman is merely a time killer. But if I think she is really cute I might start up a conversation and see where it leads. I won't approach a very beatuiful woman outside of a bar or party AT ALL!! unless I get some type of indicator. Most of them just look at you like a bug they stepped on with their Manolo's

I used to really agonize over the whole "will she reject me?" thing, but I've been trying not to care about that too much and just talk to women I'm attracted to. It's remarkably easy to talk to people. I don't even like to think of it as "hitting on", it's more like "hey, she looks interesting, let's see if we can have some fun together", whether that fun lasts 30 seconds or 3 hours.

No matter how hard I may want to, this is something I cannot do. Too afraid of rejection or the "get away from me, freak" look. This goes for ANY venue.

If I were so inclined I would just need her to look approachable and nice.

With a great ass...:)

I realized I didn't actually answer all of your question. I personally think that it's more fun to meet women in random places, rather than in a bar. Basically, if she's attractive to me and doesn't look totally preoccupied (i.e. in the middle of a cell phone conversation), I'll say hi.

G, I think the big obstacle is the whole idea of "hitting on" has some sleazy connotations. What's wrong with men being attracted to women? Here's the deal - women are people, and people like it when you find them interesting and even attractive.

I realized I didn't actually answer all of your question. I personally think that it's more fun to meet women in random places, rather than in a bar. Basically, if she's attractive to me and doesn't look totally preoccupied (i.e. in the middle of a cell phone conversation), I'll say hi.

G, I think the big obstacle is the whole idea of "hitting on" has some sleazy connotations. What's wrong with men being attracted to women? Here's the deal - women are people, and people like it when you find them interesting and even attractive.

Is getting a pass from someone in a public place or a private party or for that matter anywhere annoy you?

There is a sick section of females in India who is making much ado about nothing and indulging in criminal activities like posting pictures of men on the net.

You must not miss reading my reaction to this here.

Well, speaking of passes CC, how could a man successfully approach you without seeming creepy?

I have never hit on a woman in public. I have no idea when it might be appropriate, nor any idea how to go about it (especially without coming across as skeevy).

What attracts me most to a woman is not so much her looks as her aura. If I had to choose between approaching a 7 who exuded sensuality and a 9 who seemed bored and repressed, I would choose the 7 every time! In fact, a woman's attitude alone could move her from a 7 to a 9, in my opinion.