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Haven't I seen this email address before?

One of my favorite flubs, when men are responding to an ad I've posted on CL, is when he sends me multiple emails, clearly having forgotten who he's already responded to that day. I say this is a favorite flub for a couple of reasons. First, I have done this. I'm a little embarrassed to admit it, but there was an ad that was SO great that I agonized about responding to it, and then, after a long time, I did, but I'd spent so long thinking about what I might say that I... forgot that I had actually gone ahead and said some of it. So I wrote another email and sent it off.

Needless to say, the guy thought this was a riot, and also liked my enthusiasm, so it wasn't all bad.

Of course, normally when a guy sends me more than one email in response to a particular ad, it's a cut-and-paste job, which makes it less flattering. I don't know if he's sending it to me twice because he liked my ad both times he looked at it or if he just lost track of where in the w4m ads he left off. Still, as flubs go, this one is pretty harmless. On those occasions when I find him appealing enough to respond, I usually mention, with a gentle jab, the fact that he wrote me twice. The good ones respond with humor.

It's also revealing when the same guy sends me two emails that are different. This is rare, but it's happened a couple of times. In one case, we were clearly not a match, so I was sorry to have to decline his enthusiasm, but the second time, we clicked very well, and in that case, his enthusiasm worked in his favor.

I don't know that I'd suggest this as a deliberate attention-getting approach, but it is, at the least, a good case for doing a bit of personalizing of each email so she knows you're not a total cut-and-paster.

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