Getting off on being GGG and enjoying your quirks along the way
One of the things that fascinates me, in general and in specific, is people's turn-ons and kinks. Oh, sure, those balloon fetishists count, but even more interesting, I think, are the more day-to-day quirks and details that get people going. I, for example, love mixing contexts: Can I hide sexual play or flirtation in a totally mundane setting? Or can I joke with my lover about some weird thing I read on the web while he goes down on me? There's an obvious titillation in the former, but for whatever reason, I really love the latter, too.
Some people are aware of their own quirks, and they may be self-conscious of them. Other people seem not to realize they're quirks at all. At any rate, talking to someone about this sort of thing doesn't always bear fruit, but it often does. This is a great thing about meeting someone new and discussing turn-ons. It helps, no doubt, that I pick up new turn-ons along the way, when someone particularly enthusiastic introduces me to his (or hers.) This can be a direct introduction (i.e., by a lover) or an indirect one (i.e., in conversation with a friend.) I enjoy both.
A turn-on doesn't even have to be unusual to be interesting. Exhibitionism and voyeurism seem nearly universal among my friends (who, I'll admit, may be unusual) and are still interesting and zingy. I'm always intrigued to meet people, though, who have something that I think of as a common turn-on and who think it's unusual. For example, I had a brief thing with a guy who's biggest hot-spot was listening to his lover come, and it took us several dates before he was comfortable enough to tell me that's what sent him. It felt like a big revelation to him, but it seemed pretty mundane to me. But, hey, cool for him, right? And it worked out well, for me, too, I'll admit.
So one of the big wins for me, one of whose quirks is my love of discovery and the unexpected, in casual sex is finding this sort of thing about a new lover. You get off on giving me a pearl necklace? It may not be my thing, but seeing you go over the moon about it will be. You've been wanting for ages to find a woman who'll lick her juices off your fingers? Lovely! I suppose that makes me what Dan Savage calls GGG, but it's not just because I'm game. After all, finding more things that get me hot is a win for me in the long run, too.
