ClueChick: real clues from a real chick

I was out for dinner tonight with a friend, and we were eating in a restaurant that has a storefront type dining area, with tables right up to the windows. We had a table right next to the window, which I like, because I enjoy people-watching (shocker, right?).

So, we're eating, and this guy walks by, kinda strolling, and he looks in the window, checking out the restaurant, and then looking really closely at our table and food. Now, remember, he's only about three feet away from me, separated by glass, and he's basically standing there looking at my dinner, which is, I have to say, a little intrusive, but, fine, you've got bad boundaries? You and half the rest of the world, too.

But then he noticed me watching him check out my food, and he made a smoochy face at me, like he was blowing me a kiss, but without the hand motion. YUCK!

Now, listen, we all know that the difference between a welcome approach and a sleezy come-on is whether the recipient thinks the approacher is attractive, and so, invariably, every guy who's willing to take a shot is, like it or not, occasionally going to find some woman giving him that look that says, "Hey, what are you doing?" But there's a place where it's reasonable to go ahead and take the shot, and walking by a stranger's table while she eats isn't it.

You feel a little embarrassed because I "caught" you crossing a boundary? The way to handle it isn't to give me some lame, gross, fucking offensive smoochy face. Christ.

I need a vacation.