It's not easy being easy
It could reasonably be said that casual sex is my hobby. It's a hobby that I take pretty seriously, but that's true of many of my hobbies. It's not that I'm overly serious, I think, but I do buy into the idea that if something is worth doing, it's worth doing well. And sex is very worth doing.
But casual sex is also somewhat tiresome. One of the best things about being in a steady relationship that involves sex is that you get sex without all the work of trying to find someone you think is hot and then figure out if they think you're hot and then finding a time when you're both free and then having sex and then figuring out if you both want to do it again, all in the context of a relationship, such as it is, that gets less priority in a busy schedule than friends and family and work emergencies and what have you.
Oh, sure, sometimes there's the blissful hookup when serendipity strikes and it all comes together (pun very much intended) without a lot of effort and everyone has a blast and maybe it works out to do it again and maybe it doesn't, but that one serendipitous hookup reminds you that it can be easy being easy.
But a lot of the time, it's not.
Comments
Welcome back. How right you are about the amount of effort it takes to make some sort of contact. Some days are so tiring.
Posted by: Rosie | February 9, 2007 11:27 AM
I know the feeling. It takes work to make the contact, figure out the person, and get to know them to see if you want to get to know them in that extra fun way. It can be taxing over time.
I do take breaks every now and again to refresh and recharge. I hope to find the right person who enjoys the same hobbies.
A relationship is no less work. It is not focused on the repetitive getting to know you. It is the maintenance and keeping that spark alive. Shared interests can help there.
Posted by: Onemaster | February 9, 2007 12:29 PM
I don't read a lot of blogs - I certainly don't like very many - but usually when I do the author eventually announces a vacation and then vanishes for a long time, or forever.
I love your writing and I'm very happy to have you back. Welcome back, and thank you for all of this.
Posted by: Teddy | February 13, 2007 9:54 AM