Keeping my eyes open when looking for someone new
One of the challenges I run into is this: Having a hot hookup makes me eager to have more. It's the "the more I get, the more I want" feedback loop. So I can go a while being focused on other things, and that's great, but then something comes together, I have a great date, and I'm off to the internet to go shopping for more new lovers.
That, in itself, is fine. But the problem is that after a hot date, I want more like that. That's great if my new lover is local and has time in his schedule that matches the time in my schedule, but that's rare. So, now I find myself trolling CL for tall, dark, handsome men with a slight southern accent and who drink Grey Goose and tonic while admiring my ass in just that way. And with big hands. Like that guy I met Monday! Mmm, Mr. Monday!
So, now I'm reading all the responses to my ad through the lens of wanting that particular thing. Which is silly! Because I like lots of different kinds of men, and lots of different kinds of hookups, and of all the criteria to sort on, proximate resemblance to Mr. Monday is really just about the dumbest there is.
Which leaves me trying to read responses with, "What would the sane (i.e., not lustfully remembering) me think about this response?" It's not pretty.
On the other hand, Mr. Monday? Very, very pretty. I sure am looking forward to seeing him again!
